I have had a running commentary of things to say going on in my head from the moment I learned the news that Paul Squires has died.  And then when I had my notebook in my hand, my head fell silent. Gingatao.

Paul Squires is dead.

Gabrielle sent me an email. 

I’ve taken my daughter to the pool, and I wrote this while sitting there beside the pool in my bathing suit.  It’s been a splendid day in Washington DC, a breath-takingly beautiful day here though it’s winter in Australia.

My life is not an American movie, that’s so true, Paul. Gingatao.

I had debated whether to share my opinion with Paul — I was waiting.  I wanted to tell him that he’s a great poet — like Yeats — but I feared that it would be just baggage for him to hear it — that his writing living poetry would not be helped by the comment however heartfelt or sure.  And he might have longed to hear it, and it would have been true and not flattery, but I was genuinely afraid of giving him an unwieldy burden — better to tough it out in life’s everyday uncertainty “of hopefully interconnected narrative.”

“From which spiny rushes grow” “shoots vertical across the surface like an arrow.”

I figured there was plenty of time — bucket decades of time (never suppose there’s buckets of time) — maybe I’d tell him “shifts the air murmurs dead men’s dreams” in twenty years when it’d have mattered less, when it wouldn’t be an impediment to an elderly poet-master. 

I’ve never met “the only colors are happiness” Paul yet already the friendship “with that frog who throws his voice so cleverly” was solid “like the heart of the sun” enough that I could be thinking things like this — wait and tell him later.  “Where do you think that energy comes from to walk down the street like that?” Gingatao.

Had he lived perhaps we’d have met eventually.  I would have travelled to Australia to meet him “grey muzzled dog” and listened to an expert who knew about “how many narratives there are, how many stories you can tell.”  (The answer is “one.”)

If you can believe it, Paul was a very dear friend, the absolute best friend I never met.  Can you have a genuine friendship with a total stranger living on another continent “composed of dreams” “who is not a story you tell yourself … your life is not an American movie.”  I know Paul understood what I was trying to do in painting and that “though you may close this book and never read another word” we cared about many of the same things.  He was a dear friend.

He understood “the only available redemption is love” — he understood what I do better than I understood what he did (does).  For a long time I read the poems that I did not understand because he had commented at my blog and I returned the courtesy.  I read in courtesy what I didn’t at first understand because of the kind, sensitive comments he left.  He had found me somehow and had reached out.  “Thank you.” 

I had studied literature as a student in college thirty years ago (about the time Squires started writing poetry) and I hadn’t read much in all the intervening years until he appeared.  I was unaccustomed to poetic thought, to wild joy of seeing-hearing-feeling in words.   And his linguistic caprices confused and befuddled me (though I never said so).  He was puzzling.

But I bought the Puzzle Box and reading big breathfuls of his words I started to glimmer in small understandings.  “Insects sing, and there is no other proof of your existence but this … and though you may close your eyes, you can never close your ears….”  His ideas and the magical imagery of his rich, humane and intricate mind started “to come to you and reveal itself to you.”

I had thought I was a pretty good writer by this stage of life and figured that I knew my way around words.  “Because in the end you can look and look and the only redemption is love.”  Paul’s poems in bright sporatic glimmer thingies started to realise me that he was a master architect of words building vast mansions of thought and I in turn was building little potting sheds.  I found that reading his poetry was changing me, teaching me, I was learning not just to write but to think in words, to feel the world in words, that the whole beauty of sounding thoughts was opening to my awareness.  I began to experiment and even wrote a few not-poems that were thoroughly inspired by him.

Did he know he was my teacher?  Of one of them he never commented, though I’m pretty sure he read it.  I felt that his silence was a form of comment too into whose crystaline mirror voids one must find meaning alone.  By this I mean: I felt his silence as an act, as another of his ever kind gestures.  Did he like the poem?  Not like it?  Did that matter liking or not?  Did he know I was his student?  Was he comfortable with that?  In the way that parents love their children I knew that Paul was watching with his silent non-comment and as weird as it sounds I knew he loved me — a total stranger, thousands of miles away, living a day later (how do Australians manage to greet the day so early?).  I was almost a decade his senior, but I was the gawky newbie awkward student.

I’m at the poolside now — a fitting place to contemplate his spirit (of his life I know only what peeks from behind the surface of the poems themselves) (what kind of man can write, can think, like that?).  Paul would approve my remembering him beside the water, in the blue lightness of living and being, near sounds of splashing and children’s squeals (Paul was unafraid to depict beauty).

Paul, I love you.   How I wish my teacher had not left when I’m just a child with words, why make so many friends face the world of words alone.  Paul, I had meant to wait until you were old — perhaps seventy — to tell you that you are a great poet like Yeats.  I wish now I had told you when I first thought it, when you were living Paul.  It’s a minor consideration now.  It would have been extra freight to carry while you were writing living poems whereas you can calmly hear it now whispered in God’s own voice. 

Let not your hearts be troubled, those of us left behind.

Gingatao.  Paul Terry Squires  (November 19, 1963 – July 27, 2010)

12 thoughts on “Paul Squires

  1. Your post and tribute to Paul is absolutely beautiful. It is possible to love someone you’ve never met. I thought we’d all have a party together one day – you, me, Paul and Benedicte – playing instruments and singing, dancing, reciting poems and having a fabuloso time. Paul would have loved to have heard you tell him he was a great poet – it was his great passion and he was striving to be heard by a larger audience – a great struggle for him.

  2. brilliant and hearfelt tribute to Paul. I thank you for it. now I know him better than I did before and feel the loss of not having done. I do think you can have “a genuine friendship with a total stranger living on another continent “composed of dreams”. . .

    I had never seen that video before. thank you for posting it.

  3. thanx aletha for posting such a fitting and powerful tribute. paul just had such impeccable sensibilities and taste, they encompassed his writing, his performance and all his works and encouragements as well as filling areas of art and music with his gift, i think his writing reached beyond writing into the visual world, which may be why he is so beloved by artists as well as writers. and i know he loved your painting. the language of color was part of him too, and he knew how to see. i would bet he knew how much you loved and respected his art, even without saying that particular thing, you said it so many times to him and said it so well. thank you so much for doing that.

  4. A beautiful, moving tribute to Paul that made me cry all over again. I am so grateful you wrote it. You said what I had trouble saying. Thank you XX

  5. Trés beau texte, Aletha.
    Regrets of saying, or of not saying…from the comment-conversation on your blogs, I saw mutual respect and admiration. He knew.
    I like to think that friendship exists in that strange virtual world.

  6. thank you for this most beautiful tribute to Paul; you described exactly how he was with me too …

    i didn’t say enough, struggled to understand much of his writing in a way that would make sense by way of return dialogue but i read him often, was learning in my slow and stubborn way to frazzle the edges of restrictive thoughtlines, seeing how far Paul could journey beyond and aching to do likewise …

    i’d also hoped to meet Paul, thank him for his constant support and gentle-pushiness and to see art shine in person …

    so thank you, Aletha … this is a most poignant remembrance, gorgeously crafted with Paul’s words

  7. To all those leaving comments here, thank you for adding your memories of this great poet to this post. We will miss this man who was not only a great poet, but a shining human being.

  8. Thank you for this articulate and heart felt tribute to a truly remarkable spirit who touched many with his encouragement and example.

    Thank you Paul!

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